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Drama, drama, drama.
So you have some drama in your life?
Sometimes you run into it. Sometimes you create it. Sometimes you attract it. Either way, it can be no fun to experience.
The good news is there are many options to manage how you deal with drama.
For starters, you could punch an alien.
Then again that has some negative side effects, and there is the whole innocent extraterrestrial aspect. Who would want to hurt E.T.?
Even better advice would be to read and apply the concepts in this blog post. I’ll share a few strategies you can put into practice right away to help manage the drama in your life.
Check out the strategies below.
1. Fine Tune Your Thoughts
Each time its apparent drama is bringing you down, stop and recognize it is not the drama that is messing with your vibes. It’s your thoughts about the drama. What?????
You have a powerful brain with lots of thoughts that are free to do what they want. Think of it this way. Your thoughts can be like unsupervised toddlers running around with knives in their hands, or your thoughts can be like peaceful adults sharing empathy and love.
Your thoughts run the show. Circumstances are neutral. They are neither good nor bad. It’s all opinion and people will have different viewpoints. It’s your thoughts about the circumstance that create your feelings and determines how you handle them.
Are you managing the drama in your life with thoughtful peace and love or with knife wielding toddlers in charge?
2. Other People’s Opinions… Are Other People’s Opinions
Do you like having your own opinion about things? Would you give up that ability?
Is there any reason to be concerned with the opinions of others? After all, isn’t it their opinion and not yours?
- Maybe someone doesn’t like your blog post. Wazzuppp!
- So and so said you are the worst parent ever. Good times.
- Someone calls you a hippie freak because you don’t feed your kids gluten or artificial ingredients. Thank you! High Five!
Aren’t these just the opinions of others?
It doesn’t matter what someone says about you.
What matters is how you choose to think about it in each moment afterward.
3. Embrace Mindfulness
Mindfulness is a lifestyle. It’s awareness and being present in the moment. It means having the ability to take a split second pause before you react to a circumstance.
An example I like to use is when someone in a car cuts you off on the road. In my younger days, that would have upset me and I would have retaliated without additional thought.
A practice of mindfulness encourages you to:
- First, embrace your emotion briefly in that situation.
- Then, take a split second pause to reevaluate your thoughts about the situation without the need for anger, judgment, or retaliation.
- Next, you shift your thoughts to what might be going on with the person in the other car.
- Perhaps they just found out their child was rushed to a hospital.
- Right or wrong they may not have been thinking about you when they cut you off on the road.
- Finally, you move on and focus on peace and love. That circumstance has passed. Retaliation often doesn’t end well and will further escalate the situation.
Using mindfulness in this situation doesn’t mean you’re a pushover. It means you’re choosing a peaceful option without further escalating an unfortunate issue.
Perhaps life happened “for” you instead of “to” you. Maybe the cut off slowed you down enough to miss a potential accident up ahead on your route.
Bring it on drama. No worries.
I would love to hear how these strategies work out for you. Were you able to side steps some drama without further escalation? Does one of the strategies resonate with you more than the others? Please let me know in the comments.