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One of my favorite quotes is from the Roman Emporer, Marcus Aurelius.
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”
That quote resonates with me. It’s also one of the first quotes I ever memorized, and not because I had too. I found it a few years ago, and it stuck with me.
You see early on I didn’t have the life skills to use that quote to my advantage. It would have flown right over my head. When I was growing up:
- I lacked confidence.
- I was afraid to use my voice.
- I didn’t understand the positives of failure.
- I had no knowledge about the power of my thoughts.
- I was missing key life skills such as mindfulness, meditation, gratitude and many more.
I know now that I was playing small. As a result, I missed out on a lot of opportunities.
As I entered my twenties, I got into personal development and received some life coaching. I started to crack my shell. I was like, “Ah hell no!” I found my voice, and I wanted to use it. I began straying from the herd and learning new things.
I grew to love personal development, and I craved a career change so I could help serve others with my new-found knowledge and experience.
However, like any Hero’s Journey, I had some dragons to slay along the way. I’ll share one below and save the rest of another time.
The Big Dragon: Resistance
I wanted to become a life coach, so I could help others to find their voice and no longer play small as I had done.
Resistance did a number on me. I didn’t understand what it was and the power that it had over me.
Steven Pressfield explains resistance brilliantly in his book, The War of Art. Resistance’s sole purpose is to stop you from doing what you are meant to do. It influences your thoughts to get you to stop pursuing your greatness. Resistance will knock you off track, and often you don’t even know what hit you.
Anytime I got serious about becoming a life coach resistance shut me down with limiting beliefs.
“I can’t be a life coach; I haven’t done anything yet.”
“Who would hire a coach in their twenties?”
“I need to be much older and possess many different degrees before becoming a coach.”
“I can’t afford to leave my corporate job to start a new business.”
It took me many years to eventually realize all of those limiting beliefs were negative noise I created myself… with a little help from resistance.
In time, I learned I had power over my thoughts, and thus, I could fight back and turn the volume down on the noise.
These days, in my early forties, my “Hero’s Journey” is still going on. However, I have slain the Big Dragon called resistance. Actually, I’ve wounded it pretty bad. I know resistance will always be around, so it’s good to be knowledgeable and fight back.
Today, I am a Life Coach. How you like me now, resistance? Kapow! Take that. Boom!
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Let’s see if we can slay some dragons together.